Psychotherapy

Jungian analyst & couples therapist

Category: relationships

  • The Impact of Sibling Violence on Adult Life: A Systemic Family Therapy Perspective

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    Continuing the complex discussion on violence in childhood, there is one aspect that often goes unnoticed, despite its frequent appearance in therapy—the impact of childhood sibling violence on adult life. Many people have never consciously reflected on it, yet it significantly shapes their psychological well-being. Sibling Violence: The Overlooked Childhood Trauma One of the most significant but frequently ignored…

  • Understanding Intimate Partner Violence Through a Jungian Lens

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    After attending a seminar on relationship violence, I felt the need to explore this issue more deeply through the perspective of Carl Jung’s analytical psychology. Intimate partner violence is a complex issue involving multiple psychological factors. Through the Jungian lens, the dynamics of violence in relationships can be analyzed by examining: ✔ Archetypes✔ The collective unconscious✔ The process of individuation Since archetypes are universal symbols and themes…

  • How to Make Bedtime Easier for Young Children?

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    Continuing the discussion on sleep, I often hear from parents about the challenges of putting young children to bed. That’s why I decided to share some insights, hoping they will be useful. Bedtime can be a challenging time for both parents and young children, but a calm and consistent routine can make the process much smoother. In psychotherapy sessions with parents, we discuss strategies for creating…

  • How Childhood Trauma Affects Romantic Relationships

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    Gottman’s theory, which I consider a cornerstone of relationship psychology, sheds light on the profound impact of childhood trauma on adult romantic relationships. When partners experience difficulties in their relationship, it often means that childhood wounds and unresolved psychological complexes have been triggered. Recognizing and addressing the influence of past trauma on both individual well-being and relationships is crucial. 💡 Individuals with unresolved emotional trauma tend…

  • The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Relationships: How They Destroy Love

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    I wanted to explore the key factors that destroy relationships.John Gottman, one of the most influential researchers in relationship psychology, identified these destructive patterns and called them “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. In the world of relationships, these metaphorical “Four Horsemen” act as harbingers of relationship demise. If left unaddressed, these patterns can erode even the strongest foundations of…

  • The Key to Successful Relationships

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    Working with couples, I’ve often pondered what truly forms the foundation of a successful relationship—what is the ultimate key? As I read through research and analyze statistics, I’ve come to believe in the numbers, and I feel like I’ve finally found the key. The best part? It’s incredibly simple, and anyone in any relationship can…

  • How to Keep the Spark in Intimacy?

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    A Guide to Long-Term Compatibility, Inspired by Research from the Gottman Institute Maintaining the spark of intimacy in a long-term relationship is a delicate dance that requires attention, effort, and understanding. Relationship researcher and psychologist Dr. John Gottman, renowned for his extensive studies on relationships, offers insights that can help couples sustain the flame of…

  • The Shadow Aspects That Destroy Relationships

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    Relationships can be compared to complex and fragile ecosystems that require care and constant attention. As a Jungian analyst, I have observed many factors that can harm relationships—factors that often hide in the unconscious shadows of our psyche. In this article, I will explore some of these hidden threats and explain how they can endanger…

  • How to Keep the Spark in Intimacy? A Guide to Long-Term Compatibility, Inspired by Gottman Institute Research

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    Iveta Upeniece
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    The journey of long-term relationships and keeping the spark of intimacy alive is a delicate dance that requires attention, effort, and understanding. Renowned relationship researcher and psychologist Dr. John Gottman, known for his extensive studies on relationships, provides insights that can help couples maintain the flame of their relationship for years to come. 1. Building…

  • Breaking Free from Toxic Relationships

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    As the holiday season approaches, it’s a good time to reassess old burdens, especially those that cause headaches and sleepless nights—such as toxic relationships. Toxic relationships are marked by a distorted perception of reality and a loss of inner integrity during or after interactions with a specific person. Everything you say is perceived in a warped manner, as…