Tag: healing
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How Childhood Trauma Affects Romantic Relationships
Gottman’s theory, which I consider a cornerstone of relationship psychology, sheds light on the profound impact of childhood trauma on adult romantic relationships. When partners experience difficulties in their relationship, it often means that childhood wounds and unresolved psychological complexes have been triggered. Recognizing and addressing the influence of past trauma on both individual well-being and relationships is crucial. 💡 Individuals with unresolved emotional trauma tend…
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The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Relationships: How They Destroy Love
I wanted to explore the key factors that destroy relationships.John Gottman, one of the most influential researchers in relationship psychology, identified these destructive patterns and called them “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. In the world of relationships, these metaphorical “Four Horsemen” act as harbingers of relationship demise. If left unaddressed, these patterns can erode even the strongest foundations of…
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The Key to Successful Relationships
Working with couples, I’ve often pondered what truly forms the foundation of a successful relationship—what is the ultimate key? As I read through research and analyze statistics, I’ve come to believe in the numbers, and I feel like I’ve finally found the key. The best part? It’s incredibly simple, and anyone in any relationship can…
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Breaking the Cycle of Toxic Relationships
Understanding the Psychological Dynamics First, start by reflecting on your emotions and motivations. What unconscious psychological patterns are hidden behind this relationship dynamic? What role does your past play in these choices?Understanding why you ended up in such a self-destructive and painful situation will provide clarity about your inner world and unresolved complexes. Bringing these patterns into consciousness allows you to step out of fate and into…
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How to Keep the Spark in Intimacy?
A Guide to Long-Term Compatibility, Inspired by Research from the Gottman Institute Maintaining the spark of intimacy in a long-term relationship is a delicate dance that requires attention, effort, and understanding. Relationship researcher and psychologist Dr. John Gottman, renowned for his extensive studies on relationships, offers insights that can help couples sustain the flame of…
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How to Keep the Spark in Intimacy? A Guide to Long-Term Compatibility, Inspired by Gottman Institute Research
The journey of long-term relationships and keeping the spark of intimacy alive is a delicate dance that requires attention, effort, and understanding. Renowned relationship researcher and psychologist Dr. John Gottman, known for his extensive studies on relationships, provides insights that can help couples maintain the flame of their relationship for years to come. 1. Building…
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Breaking Free from Toxic Relationships
As the holiday season approaches, it’s a good time to reassess old burdens, especially those that cause headaches and sleepless nights—such as toxic relationships. Toxic relationships are marked by a distorted perception of reality and a loss of inner integrity during or after interactions with a specific person. Everything you say is perceived in a warped manner, as…
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“No matter what winds blow, they will all pass!”
The Latvian people’s unique survival instinct is especially evident in times like these. When I hear about the fate of other nations disappearing, I always wonder—how have Latvians managed to endure? We have never had a strong and selfless “friend” reaching out to help us in difficult times—quite the opposite, in fact. We have always…
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Life Hasn’t Stopped: A Moment for Reflection and Self-Care
Subscriber Content We have all arrived at a point where we are forced to face ourselves and our real—not idealized—relationships. Many people are currently dealing with frustration due to the inability to realize everything they had hoped for. I understand the anxiety—I, too, was worried and stressed when I realized that my entire life and…
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Lack of Empathy or Projective Care
This article was written after analyzing various reactions to discussions about violence against women. That’s why I want to explore the topic of violence in more depth, seeking its roots. The term “projective care” was introduced by Lloyd deMause in his book The History of Childhood.This term refers to a parent causing physical and/or emotional trauma to a child—while believing they are acting in the…
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