Tag: relationships
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How Toxic Relationships Invade Your Mind: The Grasshopper Metaphor
Some time ago, I saw a video where a parasite affected a grasshopper’s perception to such an extent that the grasshopper jumped into water, where its body was abandoned by a worm. Really scary, isn’t it? But my first association was with specific clients or people I had met in my life. Because this scary…
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Why They Won’t Let You Go: Understanding Manipulation in Toxic Relationships
Both in groups of people who have separated and in therapy sessions, I have observed a pattern that repeats itself regularly, so it is worth talking about. There are some people who use other people to satisfy their own needs. I won’t focus on the classification here, but in therapy, the question “Why won’t he…
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Why do soulmates become enemies?
It seems like fate — two people meet and feel like they’ve known each other their whole lives. They understand each other without saying a word. They laugh at each other’s jokes like old friends. They finish each other’s sentences and feel a sense of kinship or “soulmate” with each other. And if I’ve ever…
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Day 5 after separation, or the moment when the psychological anaesthesia wears off
During the separation period, love, anger, pain, resentment, and indifference can fluctuate in an incomprehensible sequence, and sometimes these emotions and feelings can overwhelm a person all at once. In the first days after a painful breakup or divorce, people may experience a strange numbness — a strange, almost surreal calm that masks the intensity…
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Death by a thousand paper cuts
An article about emotional abuse with insights into the consequences of psycho-emotional trauma, awareness, and healing. Unlike physical or sexual violence and the acute psycho-emotional trauma that follows, emotional abuse is not immediately noticeable, whereas physical violence is. Emotional abuse is also the most difficult to identify in therapy, as it can be completely hidden…
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When a Mother’s Love Recedes After the Birth of a Younger Sibling
In today’s sessions, I realized there’s an aspect of the Mother archetype that I haven’t written about enough. The Death Mother archetype and the emotional exile of the eldest child is a theme I encounter quite often in my practice. When a new baby enters the family, the eldest child often feels emotionally rejected. The…
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How relationships affects our wellbeing?
Sometimes statistics can be a very interesting thing. For example, scientists have tried to find out who is happier – a married man or a single woman? So, what do statistics and research tell us? The pursuit of happiness is a deeply personal journey influenced by various factors, including marital status. Recent studies have explored…
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The Intuitive Type or INFJ
The Intuitive Type (according to Jung) or INFJ (Myers & Briggs) personality type lives in a world governed by synchronicity, signs, and symbols.They often find it difficult to integrate into a society that values external expressions more than internal experiences. As one of the rarest personality types, INFJs frequently feel different from others. Their minds…
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Valentine’s Day Through the Lens of Jungian Analytical Psychology
As a Jungian analyst and family (couples) psychotherapist, observing the annual celebrations of Valentine’s Day, I want to emphasize that this cultural phenomenon also embodies clear archetypal patterns, such as Syzygy, the divine pair—Anima and Animus. These celebrations serve as a mirror of our collective unconscious, as Valentine’s Day activates the Anima and Animus archetypes in the human psyche—the feminine and…
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Observing the Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse in Couples Therapy
Subscriber Content From time to time, while working with couples in therapy, I witness the demonstration of the narcissistic abuse cycle, where one partner exerts control over the other. Sometimes, this is done so subtly and masterfully that even I struggle to illuminate the dynamic and make both partners fully aware of what is happening. How Can the Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse Be…
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