Tag: relationships
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Lack of Empathy or Projective Care
This article was written after analyzing various reactions to discussions about violence against women. That’s why I want to explore the topic of violence in more depth, seeking its roots. The term “projective care” was introduced by Lloyd deMause in his book The History of Childhood.This term refers to a parent causing physical and/or emotional trauma to a child—while believing they are acting in the…
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On Separation from Parents
Separation is a compromise between how a person wants to live their life and what their surrounding social environment expects from them—including parents, teachers, friends, acquaintances, and society as a whole. One of the most visible phases of separation occurs during adolescence when a young person begins to break away from parental influence.This process alters the structure of the Ego complex, which is directly linked to…
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The Scapegoat Complex
The scapegoat complex is one of the most controversial and emotionally charged psychological complexes.I find it important to mention, despite its deeply unpleasant emotional baggage. Why?Because it is incredibly common— 🔹 In families🔹 In kindergartens🔹 In classrooms🔹 In schools🔹 In universities🔹 In workplaces Wherever you turn, you are likely to find a scapegoat somewhere nearby. The Four Pillars of the Scapegoat Complex The scapegoat complex is…
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The Victim Complex: The Shadow of Inferiority
Sometimes, the inferiority complex comes with a companion—the victim complex. But what’s the difference between them? 📌 The inferiority complex is centered around self-perceived inadequacy—📌 The victim complex is shaped by a history of unfair suffering and injustice. To develop a victim complex, a person’s childhood must have included: This deepens the feeling of helplessness, creating a pervasive sense of injustice that follows them into adulthood. 🔹 A…
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The Inferiority Complex and Its Deep-Rooted Impact
One of the most significant psychological burdens that arises from the mother and father complex is the inferiority complex. It is often closely tied to the authority complex, though it can also exist independently. From the moment we are born, we are shaped by the gaze of our mother, our father, and our siblings.As we grow, we see ourselves through their eyes.…
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The Negative Father Complex and Its Lasting Effects
The negative father complex develops when a child’s personal boundaries are violated, broken, or destroyed. 🔴 Boundaries can be physically violated through: 🔴 Boundaries can be emotionally violated through: 💬 Common phrases that shape the negative father complex: 💡 Even if a father is physically absent—due to death, divorce, or abandonment—his absence alone can create a father wound, which leads to psycho-emotional consequences: ⚫ Deep-rooted sadness, often numbed with…
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The Negative Mother Complex and Its Lasting Effects
The negative mother complex is most often passed down from mother to child when the mother herself has experienced the same psychological patterns. 💡 What does the negative mother complex mean?It refers to a dynamic where interactions with the mother leave the child feeling bad, weak, or vulnerable rather than supported and strengthened. ❗ If interactions with one’s mother consistently evoke emotions like: Or if such…
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Sleeping with the Enemy
From time to time, in my work with clients, I come across the same recurring issue in relationships—a partner who is too jealous, too controlling, too critical. This time, I will examine this problem from the perspective of women when the partner is a man. However, men who experience similar issues (which is entirely possible) can reverse the roles, considering…
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The Impact of Violence on Attachment and Psychological Well-being
Violence —whether verbal or physical expressions of anger and rejection—can have severe psychological and psychosomatic consequences. Children who experience domestic violence are often described as depressed, passive, and struggling to adapt to new environments. They tend to be angry, restless, and aggressive. These children do not know how to play, rarely experience joy, or may not express happiness at all. Their emotional expressions are…
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