Author: Iveta Upeniece
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Think Positive Thoughts!
There are certain phrases that should not be said to someone going through a crisis whether due to a serious loss or a severe illness. Far more important than offering advice is simply listening and being present. Silent support can be much more helpful than well-intentioned suggestions. As social beings, it is natural for us…
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Memories, dreams, reflections
Among the so-called neurotics, there are many people who, had they been born earlier, would not have been neurotic that is, they would not feel an inner division. If they had lived in a time when humans were connected to nature and to the world of their ancestors through myths, when nature was a source…
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Christmas star
Did you know that the Christmas Star needs to have its tip broken off for it to grow fuller and more beautiful? I only recently learned about this. Yesterday, during a session with a couple trying to rebuild their relationship after infidelity—working through loss, struggles, and the changes that come after betrayal—it became crystal clear…
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Christmas time
Especially now, this is a time to pause, to feel the moment, to stop and reflect on everything that has been experienced so far. To think about what has worked out and what hasn’t. To consider where the path is leading and where I truly want to go. To remind myself what is most important…
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Retraumatization
It is an adaptive response developed to cope with a past traumatic experience. If we were to observe from the outside, it might seem as though the person is exaggerating—exaggerating their fear of the dark, fear of their boss, fear of their partner, etc., in situations where, on the surface, nothing significant appears to be…
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Nigredo – The Moment When the Sun Darkens
When a client arrives at therapy, one of the most common questions is:“Why has this happened to me? Why has fate, God, or the universe been so cruel?” These are profound and meaningful questions because seeking and finding symbolic meaning in suffering allows emotional trauma to be transformed, helping a person move forward. However, this is far…
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Guardian Angel in Relationships and Life
I love creating and enjoying celebrations, but sometimes, even with the best plans and high expectations, the unexpected happens—and not always in a good way. Once, while decorating a room, a small, thoughtfully sweet angel figurine fell to the ground and broke its leg. That day brought many unforeseen and unpleasant experiences along with it.…
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On Love Day 💖
The day of love and hearts sparks various reflections, including expectations in romantic relationships. We often hear: “And then they got married and lived happily ever after.” These are the happy endings we expect when reading fairy tales, novels, or watching romantic movies. Such stories sell the idea of perfect, mutually supportive relationships where partners understand each…
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Cancer as a Catalyst for Transformation
A diagnosis that turns life upside down. It topples the previous value system into a scattered pile, leaving only the most essential pieces worth keeping. The same happens with relationships—those that matter most come to the forefront, while the less significant ones fade into the background. This diagnosis alters one’s perception and attitude toward life,…
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A Mother’s and Father’s Eyes
A theme that is deeply relevant in work with parents. Yes, it truly matters what a child sees when they look into their mother’s and father’s eyes. In essence, it shapes their entire internal and external reality, their future life—determining the strength, weakness, or inflation of their Ego. It defines a person’s fate, even influencing…
Psychotherapy 