Psychotherapy

Jungian analyst & couples therapist

Tag: love

  • On Separation from Parents

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    Separation is a compromise  between how a person wants to live their life and what their surrounding social environment expects from them—including parents, teachers, friends, acquaintances, and society as a whole. One of the most visible phases of separation occurs during adolescence when a young person begins to break away from parental influence.This process alters the structure of the Ego complex, which is directly linked to…

  • The Negative Father Complex and Its Lasting Effects

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    The negative father complex  develops when a child’s personal boundaries are violated, broken, or destroyed. 🔴 Boundaries can be physically violated through: 🔴 Boundaries can be emotionally violated through: 💬 Common phrases that shape the negative father complex: 💡 Even if a father is physically absent—due to death, divorce, or abandonment—his absence alone can create a father wound, which leads to psycho-emotional consequences: ⚫ Deep-rooted sadness, often numbed with…

  • Children Attachment Styles – how differentiate them

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    Subscriber Content A secure attachment is characterized by a child’s trust in their parents—knowing that they are accessible, responsive, and helpful in critical situations. This supportive attitude fosters the development of a positive self-image and healthy interpersonal relationships. The mother (or primary caregiver) is responsive when the child seeks protection or comfort. Anxious-Resistant (Ambivalent) Attachment Style In this…

  • Key Questions to Focus on for Relationship Growth and Longevity

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    Healthy relationships are fundamentally built on growth. This means that both partners must be willing to deepen their understanding, learn from their mistakes, and make positive changes. By actively embracing growth, partners can navigate challenges and, over time, build a deeper emotional connection and intimacy. This can include learning new communication skills, developing empathy, or simply…

  • Christmas star

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    Did you know that the Christmas Star needs to have its tip broken off for it to grow fuller and more beautiful? I only recently learned about this. Yesterday, during a session with a couple trying to rebuild their relationship after infidelity—working through loss, struggles, and the changes that come after betrayal—it became crystal clear…

  • Nigredo – The Moment When the Sun Darkens

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    When a client arrives at therapy, one of the most common questions is:“Why has this happened to me? Why has fate, God, or the universe been so cruel?” These are profound and meaningful questions because seeking and finding symbolic meaning in suffering allows emotional trauma to be transformed, helping a person move forward. However, this is far…

  • On Love Day 💖

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    The day of love and hearts sparks various reflections, including expectations in romantic relationships. We often hear: “And then they got married and lived happily ever after.” These are the happy endings we expect when reading fairy tales, novels, or watching romantic movies. Such stories sell the idea of perfect, mutually supportive relationships where partners understand each…

  • From Time to Time, We Call Each Other Best Friends

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    Research shows that friendship is the foundation of long-term relationships. Genuine friendship forms the basis for lasting romantic relationships. In my work with couples, I have observed that partners who maintain a true friendship throughout their marriage are psychologically more resilient during conflicts and report higher overall satisfaction in their relationship. Studies also indicate that people in healthy relationships…