Tag: relationships
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Attachment in Adult Relationships
Just like in childhood stressful situations in adult relationships trigger the need for an attachment figure—someone who provides comfort and security. Separation from a loved one causes distress and anxiety. Close and trusting relationships serve as a protective buffer against stress at any age. Although attachment models formed in early childhood tend to remain stable, they are not irreversible. Studies show that in the first…
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Dependence & Codependence
Human differentiation or individuation appears as two processes that take place in human relations with each other. These processes continuously work in parallel both internally and externally. Internally, differentiation is a person’s ability to see another person as a separate and autonomous individuality, and the ability to separate thoughts from emotions.Deeply personal, differentiation refers to…
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Key Questions to Focus on for Relationship Growth and Longevity
Healthy relationships are fundamentally built on growth. This means that both partners must be willing to deepen their understanding, learn from their mistakes, and make positive changes. By actively embracing growth, partners can navigate challenges and, over time, build a deeper emotional connection and intimacy. This can include learning new communication skills, developing empathy, or simply…
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Christmas star
Did you know that the Christmas Star needs to have its tip broken off for it to grow fuller and more beautiful? I only recently learned about this. Yesterday, during a session with a couple trying to rebuild their relationship after infidelity—working through loss, struggles, and the changes that come after betrayal—it became crystal clear…
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Nigredo – The Moment When the Sun Darkens
When a client arrives at therapy, one of the most common questions is:“Why has this happened to me? Why has fate, God, or the universe been so cruel?” These are profound and meaningful questions because seeking and finding symbolic meaning in suffering allows emotional trauma to be transformed, helping a person move forward. However, this is far…
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On Love Day 💖
The day of love and hearts sparks various reflections, including expectations in romantic relationships. We often hear: “And then they got married and lived happily ever after.” These are the happy endings we expect when reading fairy tales, novels, or watching romantic movies. Such stories sell the idea of perfect, mutually supportive relationships where partners understand each…
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From Time to Time, We Call Each Other Best Friends
Research shows that friendship is the foundation of long-term relationships. Genuine friendship forms the basis for lasting romantic relationships. In my work with couples, I have observed that partners who maintain a true friendship throughout their marriage are psychologically more resilient during conflicts and report higher overall satisfaction in their relationship. Studies also indicate that people in healthy relationships…
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“My child is a narcissist!”
Sometimes, in my work, I hear things that make me reflect, and until I put them on paper, I can’t stop thinking about them. For example: “My child is a narcissist!” To be honest, statements like this from parents concern me. Even if teenage behavior can sometimes appear selfish, this is actually part of their psychological development—their task is…
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