Tag: trauma
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Breaking the Cycle of Toxic Relationships
Understanding the Psychological Dynamics First, start by reflecting on your emotions and motivations. What unconscious psychological patterns are hidden behind this relationship dynamic? What role does your past play in these choices?Understanding why you ended up in such a self-destructive and painful situation will provide clarity about your inner world and unresolved complexes. Bringing these patterns into consciousness allows you to step out of fate and into…
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How to Keep the Spark in Intimacy?
A Guide to Long-Term Compatibility, Inspired by Research from the Gottman Institute Maintaining the spark of intimacy in a long-term relationship is a delicate dance that requires attention, effort, and understanding. Relationship researcher and psychologist Dr. John Gottman, renowned for his extensive studies on relationships, offers insights that can help couples sustain the flame of…
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“No matter what winds blow, they will all pass!”
The Latvian people’s unique survival instinct is especially evident in times like these. When I hear about the fate of other nations disappearing, I always wonder—how have Latvians managed to endure? We have never had a strong and selfless “friend” reaching out to help us in difficult times—quite the opposite, in fact. We have always…
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Life Hasn’t Stopped: A Moment for Reflection and Self-Care
Subscriber Content We have all arrived at a point where we are forced to face ourselves and our real—not idealized—relationships. Many people are currently dealing with frustration due to the inability to realize everything they had hoped for. I understand the anxiety—I, too, was worried and stressed when I realized that my entire life and…
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Cinderella: The Culturally Traumatized Modern Woman (and Men, Too)
Subscriber Content Obedient, quiet, never talking back, never openly “nagging,” never setting boundaries. Sometimes, she explodes in private or directs her pent-up frustration at her children. She is diligent, hardworking, efficient, endlessly giving, crocheting, playing games with her children, diligently fulfilling her responsibilities—not just for herself but for her colleagues as well. She is the…
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Mirror, Mirror on the Wall…The Archetype of the Terrible Mother and Its Manifestations
Subscriber Content (This article can certainly apply to fathers or any other significant figures, such as both parents or grandparents. However, for the sake of this discussion, I will use the image of the mother, as in the original versions of the Grimm Brothers’ fairy tales, it was the mother—not the stepmother—who played the role of…
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Shadow
While it is dark and damp outside, shadows have filled every empty corner, peering out from the eaves at night, frightening those who cross their path. The shadow consists of everything that has not yet reached conscious awareness—on an individual, cultural, and collective level. It can be compared to an uncharted area on a map, where territories remain blank due to a…
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Lack of Empathy or Projective Care
This article was written after analyzing various reactions to discussions about violence against women. That’s why I want to explore the topic of violence in more depth, seeking its roots. The term “projective care” was introduced by Lloyd deMause in his book The History of Childhood.This term refers to a parent causing physical and/or emotional trauma to a child—while believing they are acting in the…
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On Separation from Parents
Separation is a compromise between how a person wants to live their life and what their surrounding social environment expects from them—including parents, teachers, friends, acquaintances, and society as a whole. One of the most visible phases of separation occurs during adolescence when a young person begins to break away from parental influence.This process alters the structure of the Ego complex, which is directly linked to…
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The Scapegoat Complex
The scapegoat complex is one of the most controversial and emotionally charged psychological complexes.I find it important to mention, despite its deeply unpleasant emotional baggage. Why?Because it is incredibly common— 🔹 In families🔹 In kindergartens🔹 In classrooms🔹 In schools🔹 In universities🔹 In workplaces Wherever you turn, you are likely to find a scapegoat somewhere nearby. The Four Pillars of the Scapegoat Complex The scapegoat complex is…
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