Tag: parenting
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How Toxic Relationships Invade Your Mind: The Grasshopper Metaphor
Some time ago, I saw a video where a parasite affected a grasshopper’s perception to such an extent that the grasshopper jumped into water, where its body was abandoned by a worm. Really scary, isn’t it? But my first association was with specific clients or people I had met in my life. Because this scary…
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When a Mother’s Love Recedes After the Birth of a Younger Sibling
In today’s sessions, I realized there’s an aspect of the Mother archetype that I haven’t written about enough. The Death Mother archetype and the emotional exile of the eldest child is a theme I encounter quite often in my practice. When a new baby enters the family, the eldest child often feels emotionally rejected. The…
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A deeper look at the topic of divorce in therapy and the key questions that should be addressed
This Article Can Be Helpful for Both Clients and Colleagues A deeper look at the topic of divorce in therapy and the key questions that should be addressed. 1. Emotional Well-being Discuss with the client their emotional state and how they are coping with the divorce process. Encourage open dialogue about their feelings, struggles, and emotional needs. 2. Support System Explore…
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“You Have Two Days to Buy Your Own Charger!” Emotional violence in couple relationship.
Emotional Abuse: “I felt helpless. I tried talking to my husband about how he also needs to take care of our child. I got angry when he refused, saying he needs to plan his time in advance and be notified exactly when and for how long he will have to watch our child. He comes…
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How to Make Bedtime Easier for Young Children?
Continuing the discussion on sleep, I often hear from parents about the challenges of putting young children to bed. That’s why I decided to share some insights, hoping they will be useful. Bedtime can be a challenging time for both parents and young children, but a calm and consistent routine can make the process much smoother. In psychotherapy sessions with parents, we discuss strategies for creating…
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Cinderella: The Culturally Traumatized Modern Woman (and Men, Too)
Subscriber Content Obedient, quiet, never talking back, never openly “nagging,” never setting boundaries. Sometimes, she explodes in private or directs her pent-up frustration at her children. She is diligent, hardworking, efficient, endlessly giving, crocheting, playing games with her children, diligently fulfilling her responsibilities—not just for herself but for her colleagues as well. She is the…
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Mirror, Mirror on the Wall…The Archetype of the Terrible Mother and Its Manifestations
Subscriber Content (This article can certainly apply to fathers or any other significant figures, such as both parents or grandparents. However, for the sake of this discussion, I will use the image of the mother, as in the original versions of the Grimm Brothers’ fairy tales, it was the mother—not the stepmother—who played the role of…
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Lack of Empathy or Projective Care
This article was written after analyzing various reactions to discussions about violence against women. That’s why I want to explore the topic of violence in more depth, seeking its roots. The term “projective care” was introduced by Lloyd deMause in his book The History of Childhood.This term refers to a parent causing physical and/or emotional trauma to a child—while believing they are acting in the…
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On Separation from Parents
Separation is a compromise between how a person wants to live their life and what their surrounding social environment expects from them—including parents, teachers, friends, acquaintances, and society as a whole. One of the most visible phases of separation occurs during adolescence when a young person begins to break away from parental influence.This process alters the structure of the Ego complex, which is directly linked to…
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The Negative Father Complex and Its Lasting Effects
The negative father complex develops when a child’s personal boundaries are violated, broken, or destroyed. 🔴 Boundaries can be physically violated through: 🔴 Boundaries can be emotionally violated through: 💬 Common phrases that shape the negative father complex: 💡 Even if a father is physically absent—due to death, divorce, or abandonment—his absence alone can create a father wound, which leads to psycho-emotional consequences: ⚫ Deep-rooted sadness, often numbed with…
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